Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Journey to the Center of the Zoo

I started this blog entry way back in the spring, but I never finished it because we couldn't find our camera with all the pictures in it. Well, we found the camera, so here is the story and the pictures to prove it.

I am just now getting around to writing about our trip to the zoo last week. I have just come to from the anesthesia from my back surgery I had to have because of it.

This is a story of foolishness and hope. Let's begin.

My first folly was when I said to Amanda, "Hey, why don't I take a day off and we take the kids to the zoo?" I looked at the weather forecast and saw that Wednesday was going to be the coolest and prettiest day of the week. The second foolish thing I said was, " We should go on Wednesday. It looks like it will be a nice day." to which Amanda replied, "Okay. I think that Wednesday is half price day too." to which I replied, "Sweet."

It was not sweet. Little did I know that just about everyone from Texas (and all of Mexico) went to the Ft. Worth zoo that day.

As we reached Ft. Worth at I-35W I noticed that traffic was pretty backed up for that time of day. I mused, "Hope they're not all going to the zoo. Haha Ha ha."

They were.

I took us literally almost an hour to get to the road the zoo was even on when were only a couple of miles away. But I said to myself, "We already drove all the way out here, we might as well go ahead and go."

When we finally got to the proximity of the zoo, I saw that if we were ever going to get inside I needed to park as soon as possible. So we ended up parking not in the zoo parking lot or even in the grass outside the zoo grounds. No, we parked across the street from the road you have to drive down to get to the zoo. It was about two miles away.

When we got to the actual zoo entrance and I saw two and a half million people waiting to just buy tickets the Holy Spirit spoke to my conscience and said, "Repent."

Unfortunately, I didn't. After all, we were already there and had gotten past the worst of it. Oh, foolish man that I am.

It would take me too long to write out everything else that transpired that day, so I'll just sum it up.

When we got in, Evie pooped (I love you Amanda). There were so many people in there that the animals were coming out to observe us asking themselves why we are so stupid. And I was surrounded by so much B.O. that I actually saw a gorilla ask a zoo keeper to spray us down so that he could eat his lunch. Jack fell asleep in the stroller on the way out and was attempting to make head dives out of it, so I was got to carry him the two miles back to the car. On the way to the car I was like Jeremiah yelling at the people who were going in. "Repent! Turn back! It's not worth it! This way leads to death!"

So kids, the moral of the story is, "It's never too late to repent, unless you die. And if you go to the Ft. Worth zoo during spring break on half price day, you just might."

Now here are the pictures:

A big turtle laughing at me for being at the zoo today.

Ugly crocodile with big tumor on his nose. He doesn't care, he's just laughing at me for being at the zoo today.

Angry at the B.O.


I'm not smiling. My back just herniated.

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Announcing Dad Discipleship Tips


I am going to start blogging Dad Discipleship Tips (DDT’s) everyday starting August 1, 2009. They will be short blog posts with tips, stories, encouragements and rebukes for Dads to be better husbands and fathers. I encourage everyone to read it, not just dads. If you would like, you can have them emailed to you if you subscribe over on the left toolbar of this blog. You will get an email sent to you that you must use to confirm that you want to receive them, otherwise, you won’t. I will post a couple more introduction posts before then. I hope you will join me.


In Christ and for His glory

-Adam

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Hey, Dads


This is an excerpt of a speech Michael Jackson gave at the Oxford Union on March 6, 2001.


“Through the grace of God, I have been fortunate to have achieved many of my artistic and professional aspirations realized early in my lifetime. But these, friends are accomplishments, and accomplishments alone are not synonymous with who I am. Indeed, the cheery five-year-old who belted out Rockin’ Robin and Ben to adoring crowds was not indicative of the boy behind the smile. . . I am the product of a lack of a childhood. . . when I was young I wanted more than anything else to be a typical little boy. I wanted to build tree houses, have water balloon fights, and play hide and seek with my friends. . . There was no respite from my professional life. . .

“My father was a managerial genius and my brothers and I owe our professional success, in no small measure, to the forceful way that he pushed us. He trained me as a showman and under his guidance I couldn’t miss a step. But what I really wanted was a Dad. I wanted a father who showed me love. And my father never did that.”

Putting everything that is (or was) Michael Jackson aside, this is heartbreaking. 

Dads, we have the power to shape a little boy or girl into a man or woman of God through the discipline and instruction of the Lord and through true masculine love. And we have the same power to totally crush their little hearts.

Boys and girls need their fathers.

Be a man. Fear God. Love your wife. Repent always. Always be in the Word. Hate sin. Trust in Christ for everything. Always be bringing the Word to them. Spank them. Love them. Kiss them. Ask for forgiveness from them. Lead them. Inspire them to be more godly than you. Give them your heart. Receive theirs.

Proverbs 23:26 

Give me your heart, my son, and let your eyes delight in my ways.

I'll end with what Paul exhorted to the men of his day. By His grace, may we submit to God's word. Help us, Lord Jesus.

1 Corinthians 16:13-14

Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.

-Adam

Monday, July 6, 2009

Homeschooling


After all the years and money that it took for Amanda to become a certified elementary education teacher in the state of Texas, we have decided that she will stay at home with our children and we will homeschool. I say this joyfully, not with regret or remorse. I am so thankful to God that he has changed our hearts the way He did in this matter.


I'll post some other time about how He prepared our hearts and minds to come around to this decision, but right now I want to post an article written by Voddie Baucham titled, "Top Five Reasons Not To Send Your Children Back To Govt. School." If you don't know, Voddie is a reformed southern baptist preacher and teacher, who also happens to be black as well as a dear brother in the Lord. And as you will read, he is a strong supporter of homeschooling.

You may not agree with everything written (as I once too was resistant to the idea of homeschooling), but all I would ask is that you would have an open mind and let scripture be your guide.


Top Five Reasons Not To Send Your Children Back To Govt. School

Anyone who has kept up with my blog knows that I am no fan of government education. I have made it a point to carry The Continuing Collapse on a regular basis, and I try to make biblical, philosophical and theological arguments in favor of Christian education as often as possible. However, I recognize the obstacles those of us on my side of the street face. As many as eighty-five to ninety percent of professing Christians send their children to the government for their education. That is simply an astonishing figure considering the fact that the Christian community fought mandatory government education tooth-and-nail for it’s first fifty years of existence. Since then we have gone from fighting against government schools to fighting for them and implying that those who fight against them are fundamentalists, anti-intellectuals, and racists.


In the meantime, our schools grow progressively worse. Well, as we begin this summer, I want to appeal to those of you with children in government schools. Please don’t send them back! I beg you to consider what you are doing. As Dave Black has written:


No academic skepticism, no secularist authors, no blatant materialism can so undermine the spiritual life of the country like the completely secularized training of the child under the authority of the state... Bible-based education is mandatory for Christian parents. If we think we can keep our children in a secular school system and escape the dumbed-down, amoral, and immoral results of secular humanism in schools, we are sorely mistaken (emphasis added, see:http://daveblackonline.com/our.htm).


With that, here are the top five reasons not to send your kids back to government school next year:


5. YOU DON’T HAVE TO


This may sound like a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many people ask home educators the “authority” questions (i.e., to whom do your report? who approves your curriculum?). These questions are the byproduct of statism. The Gramscian, neo-Marxist influence is so prevalent in our culture that we don’t even recognize it anymore. We actually believe that children are wards of the state when in fact they are not. As a result, some people have a hard time believing that they have the right to educate their children in a manner of their choosing. Well, I’m here to tell you that you are free. Your children are yours. They do not belong to Caesar. You don’t have to take them back to the local government indoctrination center next semester. And in some states (thank God for Texas), you don’t even have to tell them you’re not coming back!


4. AMERICA’S SCHOOLS ARE AMONG THE WORST IN THE INDUSTRIALIZED WORLD


One of the issues that many Christians seem willing to ignore is the fact that sending children to American schools represents extremely poor stewardship. American students continually rank at the bottom in math, science and reading compared to other industrialized nations (see here). That’s right, our educational system is among the world’s worst! Of course everyone says, “Our schools are different.” News flash... that’s a lie!


One of our elders taught honors math at one of the “best schools” in one of the “best school districts” in Texas (you know, one of those schools people lie and cheat to get their children into so that they can get a better education). His advanced geometry class was filled with a bunch of imbeciles who could barely do basic arithmetic. As a result, most of them failed their first major test. You know what happened next. That’s right, the principal called him into the office and told him to make things right. One of the things he was told to employ was a grading technique called “Square root times ten.” Thus, a student who made a 49 on a test ended up with a 70 in the grade book (for those of you who went to government schools like me, that’s the square root of 49 times ten).


This is what’s happening at our “best” schools. Don’t believe me? ask a college admissions worker how many students coming from our “best” schools with grade point averages hovering near 4.0 need remediation when they get to college. It’s an absolute joke. The overwhelming majority of children in our schools have a B average or above (mostly for self esteem reasons), which serves to give them and their parents a false sense of achievement. It also results in people who ‘feel really good’ about their schools.


Please don’t buy the lie. Your child’s school is probably terrible. If you really care about the stewardship of you child’s mind, don’t send them back to the worst schools in the industrialized world next year.


3. AMERICA’S SCHOOLS ARE MORALLY REPUGNANT


The headlines speak for themselves. Student-teacher sex scandals, student-student sex, immodesty, foul language, drugs, alcohol, radical homosexual agendas, teachers taking students for abortions, “sexting” leading to suicide, sexually transmitted diseases, brutal beatings, and school shootings (see here). These are just some of the headlines that have become the norm. And that does not include things like cheating, disrespect for authority, impropriety towards the opposite sex, and other moral behaviors children learn regularly and repeatedly in school. Van Til said it better than I ever could:


“Non-Christian education puts the child in a vacuum…. The result is that child dies. Christian education alone really nurtures personality because it alone gives the child air and food…. Modern educational philosophy gruesomely insults our God and our Christ. How, then, do you expect to build anything positively Christian or theistic upon a foundation which is the negation of Christianity and theism?…. No teaching of any sort is possible except in Christian schools.”


Moreover, the system itself is funded by virtual theft. Homeowners are forced under threat of the loss of their property to pay for the education of other people’s children. How is that appropriate? The government tells everyone that they have to send their children to school, then tells homeowners that they are going to be the ones to foot the bill whether they like it or not. Not only is this a form of welfare, it is also a form of theft.


For those of you ready to read me the riot act and yell and scream about paying for roads and bridges, hold on a minute. Why is it that we get all up-in-arms about our tax dollars being used to fund abortions (while our opponents make the roads and bridges argument), but we don’t see this one? Our schools are morally repugnant. They are also neo-Marxist, secular humanist indoctrination centers. Why should I as a Christian be forced to pay for children to have every vestige of Christianity beaten out of them? Americans are not forced to pay for Mormon schools, or Muslim schools; why should we be forced to pay for neo-Marxist schools (remember, all education is religious in nature)? And why should any Christian contribute to such a system by sending their children to such schools at the expense of others? And before you yell, “I’m just using the tax dollars I spent,” ask yourself if you’re willing to take advantage of all that abortion funding going to Planned Parenthood, or those tax dollars going toward fetal stem cell research.



  1. 2.GOVERNMENT EDUCATION IS ANTI-CHRISTIAN


“I am as sure as I am of Christ’s reign that a comprehensive and centralized system of national education, separated from religion, as is now commonly proposed, will prove the most appalling enginery for the propagation of anti-Christian and atheistic unbelief, and of anti-social nihilistic ethics, individual, social and political, which this sin-rent world has ever seen.”

-A.A. Hodge


Jesus made it quite clear when he said, “Whoever is not with me is against me, and whoever does not gather with me scatters.” (Matthew 12:30 ESV) I am amazed at how many Christians refuse to acknowledge this fact as it relates to the government school system. Our education is either based on biblical truth, or some other truth. There is no such thing as neutrality in this regard. All education is religious in nature. Since it is illegal for students in our government schools to be taught from a Christian perspective, then it follows that they must be taught from a non (or anti) Christian perspective.


As Hodge pointed out, the result of non-Christian education is anti-Christian education. Government schools must be anti-Christian. They can be nothing else. Therefore, to send a child to a government school is to have them trained in an anti-Christian environment for 14,000 instructional hours. To get that much instruction from church a child would have to attend two hours a week for one hundred and forty years!


1. THE BIBLE COMMANDS CHRIST-CENTERED EDUCATION


“This whole process of education is to be religious, and not only religious, but Christian…. And as Christianity is the only true religion, and God in Christ the only true God, the only possible means of profitable education is the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

-Charles Hodge


I recognize that educational antinomianism is the norm in the modern American church. According to the common refrain, “It doesn’t matter what educational choice you make... you just have to pray about it and do what the Lord leads your family to do.” However, I must confess I find this this concept disturbing on a number of fronts. First, this kind of thinking denies the sufficiency of Scripture. The Bible speaks either directly, or principially to every aspect of life. There are no grey areas. Sure, there are things that are difficult to discern, but education is not one of them. Though you won’t find the word ‘education’ in Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance, there are a number of passages that speak directly to the issue of training ourselves and our children intellectually, spiritually, philosophically and morally (See Deut. 6:6,7; Prov. 1:7; Eph. 6:4, etc). We also have numerous warnings against allowing others to influence us intellectually, spiritually, philosophically, and morally (Psalm 1; Rom. 12:1,2; 2 Cor. 6:14ff; Col. 2:8, etc.).


Second, this line of reasoning smacks of mysticism. Instead of making an argument with an open Bible we dismiss all opposition with the flippant, trite, overused, and theologically problem-laden phrase, “we prayed about it and this is what the Lord told us to do.” The lord ‘has spoken’. (Heb. 1:1-2) We are not awaiting new revelation. Instead of doing what the Lord ‘told us’, Christians are commanded to do what the Lord ‘has told us’ in his Word. The London Baptist Confession speaks to this matter rather poignantly:


The Holy Scripture is the only sufficient, certain, and infallible rule of all saving Knowledge, faith and obedience; Although the light of Nature, and the works of creation and providence do so far manifest the goodness, wisdom and power of God, as to leave men unexcusable [sic.]; yet are they not sufficient to give that knowledge of God and His will, which is necessary unto salvation. Therefore it pleased the Lord at sundry times, and in divers manners, to reveal himself, and to declare that His will unto his Church; and afterward for the better preserving, and propagating of the truth, and for the more sure establishment, and comfort of the Church against the corruption of the flesh, and the malice of Satan, and of the World, to commit the same wholly unto writing; which maketh the Holy Scriptures to be most necessary, those former ways of Gods revealing his will unto his people being now ceased.


The Cambridge Declaration states:


We reaffirm the inerrant Scripture to be the sole source of written divine revelation, which alone can bind the conscience. The Bible alone teaches all that is necessary for our salvation from sin and is the standard by which all Christian behavior must be measured. We deny that any creed, council or individual may bind a Christian's conscience, that the Holy Spirit speaks independently of or contrary to what is set forth in the Bible, or that personal spiritual experience [i.e., “the Lord told me”] can ever be a vehicle of revelation.


There’s enough here for an entire series of posts (so many posts... so little time), but for now let me simply say that the “the Lord told me” line of argumentation has serious theological problems. We must make our educational decisions with an open Bible. “The Lord told me” is no substitute for “the Bible says...” Please don’t make a decision about your child’s education without consulting (and obeying) the Scriptures.


This week the SBC hornet’s nest is being stirred up again over the education issue. The last time this happened I was beyond embarrassed as I listened to my esteemed colleagues make illogical, unscriptural, cowardly arguments for “not giving up on ‘our’ schools.” How I long for voices like Hodge, Van Til, and Machen (who called government education a “soul-killing system”) to be heard among my brethren. However, with over eighty-five percent of our children in the government schools and more government school teachers and administrators than any other “denomination”, it is highly unlikely that our side will prevail on this issue any time soon. One wonders what the schools will have to do to our children before we are willing to acknowledge the folly of our choices. In the meantime, I will continue to watch, fight, and pray, and try to convince as many of you as I can to liberate your children from Caesar’s indoctrination camps.


I have quoted John Wesley on this issue in previous posts. However, his words are far too pertinent for me to ignore on this issue:


“Let it be remembered, that I do not speak to the wild, giddy, thoughtless world, but to those that fear God. I ask, then, for what end do you send you children to school? “Why, that they may be fit to live in the world.” In which world do you mean, — this or the next? Perhaps you thought of this world only; and had forgot that there is a world to come; yea, and one that will last for ever! Pray take this into your account, and send them to such masters as will keep it always before their eyes. Otherwise, to send them to school (permit me to speak plainly) is little better than sending them to the devil. At all events, then, send your boys, if you have any concern for their souls, not to any of the large public schools, (for they are nurseries of all manner of wickedness,) but private school, kept by some pious man, who endeavours to instruct a small number of children in religion and learning together.”


I can’t help but wonder if people called Wesley divisive or extremist for making the aforementioned comments. Perhaps not. Perhaps they simply said, “That may be right for you, but it’s not what the Lord told us to do.”


VB

Friday, July 3, 2009

In the Discipline & Instruction of The Lord



I am a fairly young father. I turned 25 today. I think. Confirmed by Amanda. Along with getting cheaper insurance, I am very thankful today. I am thankful to my God who has redeemed the wicked man that I am through Jesus Christ our Lord. And I am thankful for my family that He has blessed me with. Amanda, Jack and Evie. Despite my sin, God has truly blessed me and shown me what it means to be blessed through my family. He has changed my heart and turned it toward my wife and children and I pray that I have their hearts in return.

Just a couple of nights ago, Jack and I were reading Genesis chapter 2. Everything was just fine until I had to go and expound the last verses of the chapter.

24Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.


Don't worry, I didn't expound it that much. I did tell him, though, that one day, God willing, he will get married and go and live with his wife and have children in a home of their own. There, he would be responsible for leading his own family unto the Lord.

But this particular piece of expository preaching struck a cord in my three and a half year old son. Suddenly, tears welled up in his eyes like I haven't seen since he was quite a bit younger. He was truly sad about this idea. He did not want to leave his daddy and mommy. He wrapped around me and hugged me and cried. I said, "That's it. Have a good cry. Let it all out... Alright, that's enough." Just kidding. That's a little Dumb and Dumber humor.

I tried to explain to him that he just didn't understand right now and that it's okay. Some people might not think that this would be an appropriate thing to be telling three year olds. That they are just not ready for things like that and they just need to be kids. But I don't think that this kind of mindset is found in Scripture. We are to "train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it" Proverbs 22:6. And this includes training little boys to become men, husbands and fathers and little girls to be feminine wives and mothers. Kids can understand things if you teach it to them. They are not dumb, they only imitate their parents. They can handle all of God's Word, if we give it to them with wisdom and discipline.

But what do we do when, as we read through all the Bible, we get to passages like 2 Kings 6 where we read about mothers cooking and eating their own babies? Should we disobey God and skip to the verses we like? Or should we use it as an opportunity to teach them about man's wickedness and depravity and about God's judgment and hatred of sin? I think it is the latter. God will bless the faithful. And honestly, a lot of times things like these go right over the heads of little children. But you need be prepared if they don't, fathers.

Discipling our children in God's word is the most important aspect of being a parent. They are not ours. They are His. Have we ever thought about it like that? I know I haven't until recently. We are just stewards of God for their  bodies and minds and souls. And He commands us to teach them His commands. Please read what God has said in Deuteronomy 6:

4"Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. 5 You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.


This passage tells us to teach our children God's commands diligently. It gives us four different times to do it. While, sitting, walking, lying down and getting up. You could get it all done in about fifteen minutes if you make a workout routine out of it. That's a joke.

Does that mean we have to actually make our children be still and listen to the Bible four times a day? I would say not necessarily, but maybe. Maybe we need to do it six times a day. This isn't a legalistic command from the Lord, but make no mistake, it is a command. Let's not be antinomians here. Antinomians are people who quote Romans six and say, "we are not under law, but under grace" and use it as an excuse not obey God. If we do that and fail to teach our children God's word, which includes His old testament law, we will literally be throwing our babies out with the bath water and into the world.

So, how many times should you read the Bible to your children? I don't know. It depends on your family and situation. Dads, if you're like me and like to do things immediately right when you're convicted about it, you should take it slow. Otherwise, you will be in for heartache and frustration. You need to talk to your wife and let her know what you want and get on the same page. And as far as your children go, are they used to sitting and listening for long periods of time? Did they grow up being read to? If not, it will take some time. Start with a few verses and spend some time explaining it. Ask them some questions about it. Keep it short. And then, slowly build your way up.

In my home, at this present time, we do it three times a day, with a chapter each time. We don't always get all of them in everyday, but that's the goal. We also have a little children's Bible that we started Jack on that he still likes to read. And we go through a catechism book every night too. It may sound like a lot, but it's not. Jack loves it. And if we forget or are too tired, he keeps us accountable. This didn't happen overnight. It took a good while to be able to achieve this because of bad habits I cultivated in myself and passed on to my son early in his life.

I am going to end this blog here because it is already long enough for the average attention span (at least mine). But I am going to follow this up with another post about my struggles and some tips I have found helpful so that I can be faithful in bringing my family up in the Lord.

For His Glory